Friday, March 16, 2018

Getting Bad News Over Facebook

The other day I received a message from someone very dear to me.  He told me he'd been in an accident and that he'd fractured four ribs, crushed his pelvis, and lost one of his legs.  Apparently, he'd been in the hospital for awhile and was expecting to be there a couple more weeks due to needing more surgeries.

Is it just me or is facebook messenger not the best form of communication for getting news this big?  What happened to phone calls?  Nobody seems to do this anymore.  What do you think?

Much love,

Mother Tory

Thursday, May 4, 2017

How To Speak Wealth Into Being

These prosperity affirmations are not mine.  I learned them listening to Catherine Ponder.  I put them down here as easy reference.  I will embed the video below.

1.  I get definite about prosperity so prosperity can get definite about me.

2.  My words are charged with prospering power.

3.  I have a large, steady, dependable, permanent financial income now.  Everyday, in every way, I am growing more and more financially prosperous now.

4.  I give thanks for quick and substantial increase in my financial income now.

5.  Large sums of money and rich appropriate gifts now come to me, under grace, in perfect ways, for my personal use and I use them wisely.

6.  Everything and everybody prospers me now and I prosper everything and everybody now.

7.  I now work financial wonders in my life with prosperity affirmations.

8.  I praise my wealth now.  I praise my financial affairs now.

9.  Words of praise will pay the bills.  Words of praise prosper me now.

Your chosen statements are to be repeated daily, a few times a day for best effectiveness.

Thank you, Ms. Ponder!

Friday, February 10, 2017


I realized recently that no one has asked me what my religion is in a very long time.  I think it's because my lifestyle makes it look like I have none to the people in my community.  I have noticed that, when asked, most of the people around me claim Christianity despite having no outward clues of having any spiritual beliefs whatsoever, even in conversation.

Why do you suppose people claim faith that they clearly don't live by?

Thursday, January 19, 2017

The Practice of Detachment

Detachment is, in my opinion, the art of loving everything and everyone but not caring about the who, what, when, where, why, or how. 

In my personal practice of detachment, I can describe it as being a LOT like being severely depressed (you know, at that point where you don't care about ANYTHING), but completely happy.  Blissfully so, even.

I have six children.  For most of their lives I've felt like they were mine, they belonged to me.  I started to realize that they were actually separate beings from me when I was forced to start giving them up (one due to divorce and two due to them moving out when they were grown) and none of us died.  Now I accept that, even though I'm important to them, I'm not vital to them.

So I've gotten to a point now that I'm choosing to rid myself of belongings that I don't need and am only hanging onto for sentimental reasons.  It's really been so freeing.  The fewer things I "own", the less scared I am of losing things.  The less scared I become, the more fulfilled and happy I am.  It's truly amazing.

Thursday, December 1, 2016

How To Be A Loser

Hello, people!

I've come to the realization recently that I am a loser.

I know, I know.  Strong word.

My children helped me to realize this about myself.  Not deliberately, they've simply grown up enough that their memories and opinions about their childhoods have become a topic of conversation and I can see things from their points of view.

Obviously, there are things they don't know about and, therefore, are unable to appreciate.  Things I gave up, things I did that I didn't want to do.  Maybe, someday, I will share everything with them, but I doubt it.

For now, it is just enlightening to me to see what things looked like from the outside.

I thought I was doing my best.


How to be a loser?

Do what everyone else thinks is the right thing to do, even when it bites you in the ass repeatedly.

You'll get no credit for anything and you'll take the fall for everything.

Alright, enough of that.

Time to do what I think is best.

Wish me luck!

Much love to all of you!

Mother Tory

Friday, November 18, 2016

Grandma's Chocolate Gravy Recipe

My grandmother never actually wrote down this recipe, saying that cooking was better done by "feel".  Luckily, a close family friend sat in the kitchen and watched her make it, writing as she cooked, a few years before she passed.  Here is just one of her gifts to the world:

Grandma's Chocolate Gravy


2 1/2 c Flour
1 1/2 c Sugar
1/2 c Chocolate powder
1 1/2 c Water
1/2 - 2/3 c Milk
1/4 t Salt
1 qt Milk


Add first 6 ingredients to saucepan and put on medium heat.
Stir constantly.
Once it starts bubbling, begin adding the quart of milk in small increments until it's all added while continuing to stir CONSTANTLY.
When gravy is almost a pudding consistency, it's done.
Turn off the heat.

Thank you!

I hope you enjoy it!

Sunday, June 26, 2016

Life On Earth

Living on this planet has taught me not to believe humans and not to trust animals.

Maybe I should live amongst the plants.

I don't expect them to care about me any more than the animals do, but they're not going to let me down, either.

That's just it, though, isn't it?

I trust the plants because I have no expectations of them.

They are never going to convince me that they have plans and then not follow through.
They are never going to tell me they love me and then leave me alone.
They are never going to act like they care and then hurt me.

They're plants.  They don't care about anything but surviving as best they can.

My mistake was believing that people were more than that.

I'm no better than anyone else.  I've done all these things, too.

I'm human.

However, I also know that I am capable of more/doing better and desire to do more/be better.

The pain only comes when I expect others to not only want to do more but be willing to put effort towards it, as well.

Anyone can say they'll be there for you, but how many are actually going to show up?

I'm willing to bet that, if I died today, there'd be more flowers than true friends at my funeral.

I think it's time I gave up all expectations, just go with the flow and take care of me.