Friday, February 10, 2017

Religion

I realized recently that no one has asked me what my religion is in a very long time.  I think it's because my lifestyle makes it look like I have none to the people in my community.  I have noticed that, when asked, most of the people around me claim Christianity despite having no outward clues of having any spiritual beliefs whatsoever, even in conversation.

Why do you suppose people claim faith that they clearly don't live by?

Thursday, January 19, 2017

The Practice of Detachment

Detachment is, in my opinion, the art of loving everything and everyone but not caring about the who, what, when, where, why, or how. 

In my personal practice of detachment, I can describe it as being a LOT like being severely depressed (you know, at that point where you don't care about ANYTHING), but completely happy.  Blissfully so, even.

I have six children.  For most of their lives I've felt like they were mine, they belonged to me.  I started to realize that they were actually separate beings from me when I was forced to start giving them up (one due to divorce and two due to them moving out when they were grown) and none of us died.  Now I accept that, even though I'm important to them, I'm not vital to them.

So I've gotten to a point now that I'm choosing to rid myself of belongings that I don't need and am only hanging onto for sentimental reasons.  It's really been so freeing.  The fewer things I "own", the less scared I am of losing things.  The less scared I become, the more fulfilled and happy I am.  It's truly amazing.

Thursday, December 1, 2016

How To Be A Loser

Hello, people!

I've come to the realization recently that I am a loser.

I know, I know.  Strong word.

My children helped me to realize this about myself.  Not deliberately, they've simply grown up enough that their memories and opinions about their childhoods have become a topic of conversation and I can see things from their points of view.

Obviously, there are things they don't know about and, therefore, are unable to appreciate.  Things I gave up, things I did that I didn't want to do.  Maybe, someday, I will share everything with them, but I doubt it.

For now, it is just enlightening to me to see what things looked like from the outside.

I thought I was doing my best.

So..

How to be a loser?

Do what everyone else thinks is the right thing to do, even when it bites you in the ass repeatedly.

You'll get no credit for anything and you'll take the fall for everything.

Alright, enough of that.

Time to do what I think is best.

Wish me luck!

Much love to all of you!

Mother Tory

Friday, November 18, 2016

Grandma's Chocolate Gravy Recipe

My grandmother never actually wrote down this recipe, saying that cooking was better done by "feel".  Luckily, a close family friend sat in the kitchen and watched her make it, writing as she cooked, a few years before she passed.  Here is just one of her gifts to the world:

Grandma's Chocolate Gravy

Ingredients:

2 1/2 c Flour
1 1/2 c Sugar
1/2 c Chocolate powder
1 1/2 c Water
1/2 - 2/3 c Milk
1/4 t Salt
1 qt Milk

Directions:

Add first 6 ingredients to saucepan and put on medium heat.
Stir constantly.
Once it starts bubbling, begin adding the quart of milk in small increments until it's all added while continuing to stir CONSTANTLY.
When gravy is almost a pudding consistency, it's done.
Turn off the heat.

Thank you!

I hope you enjoy it!





Sunday, June 26, 2016

Life On Earth

Living on this planet has taught me not to believe humans and not to trust animals.

Maybe I should live amongst the plants.

I don't expect them to care about me any more than the animals do, but they're not going to let me down, either.

That's just it, though, isn't it?

I trust the plants because I have no expectations of them.

They are never going to convince me that they have plans and then not follow through.
They are never going to tell me they love me and then leave me alone.
They are never going to act like they care and then hurt me.

They're plants.  They don't care about anything but surviving as best they can.

My mistake was believing that people were more than that.

I'm no better than anyone else.  I've done all these things, too.

I'm human.

However, I also know that I am capable of more/doing better and desire to do more/be better.

The pain only comes when I expect others to not only want to do more but be willing to put effort towards it, as well.

Anyone can say they'll be there for you, but how many are actually going to show up?

I'm willing to bet that, if I died today, there'd be more flowers than true friends at my funeral.

I think it's time I gave up all expectations, just go with the flow and take care of me.

Saturday, June 4, 2016

Speak Less of Your Plans - You Will Get More of Them Done

Hello, Beautiful Soul!

Today's topic is a difficult one for me.

Have you ever had an epiphany about where you wanted to go in life and shouted it from the rooftops, only to find a few weeks later that you'd completely forgotten about or given up on it?

That's me... on repeat.

"SPEAK LESS OF YOUR PLANS - YOU WILL GET MORE OF THEM DONE"

Believe it or not, that sage piece of advice came to me in a fortune cookie.  I just sat there contemplating it for awhile, the timeliness.  I was at the beginning of one of those life epiphanies right at that moment and this ran so contrary to my nature.  To make it worse, I was with the people I most enjoying sharing with as I was reading it.

What was I to do?

I was sitting there, facing them, the compulsion to let loose spilling over like a boiling tea kettle.

I will admit that I spilled a few drops on them, just to relieve a little pressure.

For the most part, though, I managed to contain myself.

Just in case you were wondering, I'm not going to tell you my plans, either.  Yes, that's how much better I'm doing this time.

I've found that keeping more things to myself actually makes life easier in many ways.  My friends, especially, seem to appreciate not being spewed on.

As far as work goes, I'm getting a lot more done and staying more focused.  Being able to take breaks whenever I want without feeling guilty to anyone but myself because I'm the only one who knows what I'm "supposed" to be doing is so liberating.  I'm actually choosing to work more... and on my original plans to boot!

I share this tiny story in hopes that it will help others who find it difficult to stay focused and motivated.  If you, like I, ascribed to the belief that telling people your plans would keep you accountable only to later be called a failure over and over, try holding it in.

Just once.

I could share the psychology behind this condition, but it won't make you feel better.  Suffice to say that it has something to do with internal beliefs about oneself.

Change your script and see the magic.

Much love,

Mother Tory

Saturday, February 6, 2016

The Best No Bake Cookies!

The Best No Bake Cookies Ever! At least, my kids think so...


Ingredients:
1 3/4 c sugar
1/2 c milk
1/2 c butter
4 T cocoa powder
1/2 c peanut butter
1 t vanilla
3 c quick cooking oats


Directions:
In a sauce pan, add sugar, milk, butter, and cocoa powder and bring to a boil.
Boil, stirring constantly, for 1 1/2 minutes.
Remove from heat.
Stir peanut butter into mixture.
Stir vanilla into mixture.
Stir oats into mixture.
Spoon mixture, 1 spoonful at a time, onto a cookie sheet or parchment paper.
Let sit until solid.


Enjoy!